As a Process Server you tend to see a lot of things that can totally break your heart. Yes, beneath this hardened exterior is a soft and caring heart, and serving in some of the areas that I have had to serve makes you very thankful for everything you have and thankful for the way that you were raised yourself. At times I feel almost like a Social Worker. I get a lot of work from the family courts, and a bulk of that would be for Child Support. I know I have to be strong and a professional while out in the field, but seeing the living conditions of some of these people tears me up. Whether it's kids running amuck, appearing unbathed for days in front of a house with no adults around, asking to take a ride in my car... to a woman that is a girlfriend of someone you are trying to serve reeking of pot, begging you for money because she needs food for her baby. Most of the time I have to look past all of the poor conditions and just do my job... but I can't say that it doesn't bother me.
I really get tired of having to chase down adults that should know right from wrong, and are constantly avoiding me because they think that if they don't get served, they don't have to deal with it. But at the same time I make it my mission to serve them when they don't pay their child support, have left their spouse or girlfriend alone with a child (or four) because they are so selfish and immature to handle the responsibilities that come with unzipping their pants and having sex, and/or have another girl on the side that they will just do the same thing to. I know I should keep my opinions to myself while out in the field, but there have been a few times where I have told the servee..."Man Up! If I have to pay child support for the beautiful child that I helped bring into this world, then so should you."
Yes, there are instances like my own, where I had a child in marriage but unfortunately the marriage did not work out because my wife at the time had extracurricular activities and left me. So, yes there are times that the servee is not entirely at fault... there are always two sides to every story, but once again if you play the game and have a child (or children) and you are not raising that child... it is YOUR responsibility to pay child support for them. It's not the child's fault, so not paying your child support isn't getting back at your ex-spouse, but hurting the child. Man Up.... hell, Woman Up as well.... because I'm starting to see a lot more papers on women that have had children, left the children with the father and don't do anything for the child or children that they have given birth to.
The system isn't perfect.... I actually have a friend that has two children that live with him, and for the past two years he has been paying child support, despite being laid off, to the mother of the two children who lives a block or two away. He is raising them, cares for them, does the best he can to provide for his children... and yet she is receiving child support which she lives off of not even to support the kids, but herself and her habits. Is this fair... Hell No. Luckily he's doing his best now to get this reversed... he's a good soul and shouldn't be taken advantage of.
Ok... off my soapbox for the day... off to do the good job.
Late.
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